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Blog#2 | 01/22/2018
How to Revive those New Year Resolutions!
It’s too late to wish anyone Happy New Year. After all it’s more than two weeks since you watched the ball drop in Times Square or watched fireworks explode lighting up the possibility of a whole new start.
Can you even remember the promises you made to yourself about 2018? Is this going to be the best year yet? Is this the year when you finally overcome that bad habit, or really fix your relationship?
Maybe those goals have almost evaporated even before you got started.
NOW you need to develop an action plan to convert those dreams and wishes and make your life changes happen!
That’s the job of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists. They have many strategies and techniques to help you set goals and make them stick. Working with a therapist or coach regularly keeps you accountable and focused on achieving your goals. They can help you to get your head right to make the right changes.
Their advice can be as simple as creating a yardstick for you to make a goal really achievable. Or you may learn that by asking yourself a question in a certain way, it makes your goal much more achievable.
For example, it may not really help you much to say: “I will improve my relationship by being a better person”. Rather, you could say: “I will take the time to greet my partner warmly at the end of the day, ask 3 questions and truly listen to what they say about their day”.
Renowned relationship researchers and therapists, Doctors John and Julie Gottman recommend this technique for building more intimacy and connection between couples. They are clear that it is the small expressions of affection and consideration that you do regularly which can change how the relationship turns out over time.
Small acts of kindness can be incredibly important in building good will. One of my favorite quotes is:
“Every positive
thing you do in
your relationship
is foreplay.”
- John Gottman
That is inspiring!
Change is possible, whatever the date shown on the calendar. I encourage you to write down your goal, on your phone or on paper. Think about the steps needed to make that happen. New Year’s resolutions can be revived!! If you feel uncertain, needing more direction, reach out for help. This might be the year you decide to begin couples counseling or therapy. After all, those goals of self -improvement deserve to be honored and it is never, ever too late to start.
Warmly,
Robyn Fowler
How to Revive those New Year Resolutions!
It’s too late to wish anyone Happy New Year. After all it’s more than two weeks since you watched the ball drop in Times Square or watched fireworks explode lighting up the possibility of a whole new start.
Can you even remember the promises you made to yourself about 2018? Is this going to be the best year yet? Is this the year when you finally overcome that bad habit, or really fix your relationship?
Maybe those goals have almost evaporated even before you got started.
NOW you need to develop an action plan to convert those dreams and wishes and make your life changes happen!
That’s the job of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists. They have many strategies and techniques to help you set goals and make them stick. Working with a therapist or coach regularly keeps you accountable and focused on achieving your goals. They can help you to get your head right to make the right changes.
Their advice can be as simple as creating a yardstick for you to make a goal really achievable. Or you may learn that by asking yourself a question in a certain way, it makes your goal much more achievable.
For example, it may not really help you much to say: “I will improve my relationship by being a better person”. Rather, you could say: “I will take the time to greet my partner warmly at the end of the day, ask 3 questions and truly listen to what they say about their day”.
Renowned relationship researchers and therapists, Doctors John and Julie Gottman recommend this technique for building more intimacy and connection between couples. They are clear that it is the small expressions of affection and consideration that you do regularly which can change how the relationship turns out over time.
Small acts of kindness can be incredibly important in building good will. One of my favorite quotes is:
“Every positive
thing you do in
your relationship
is foreplay.”
- John Gottman
That is inspiring!
Change is possible, whatever the date shown on the calendar. I encourage you to write down your goal, on your phone or on paper. Think about the steps needed to make that happen. New Year’s resolutions can be revived!! If you feel uncertain, needing more direction, reach out for help. This might be the year you decide to begin couples counseling or therapy. After all, those goals of self -improvement deserve to be honored and it is never, ever too late to start.
Warmly,
Robyn Fowler
This blog is designed as self-help and psycho-education. It cannot substitute for therapy with a properly trained professional. If you feel that your relationship problems are serious or require more attention I recommend that you contact an experienced and qualified therapist.
If you would like more information about how I could help you,
Call 914 315 7950 or email Robyn@feelinggoodcenter.com
to schedule your free 15 minute telephone consultation.
